Once you’re in a relationship, it’s easy to overlook some of your own behaviors, like the way you treat your partner. But even if you think you’re doing everything right with them, some of your actions or words could actually be putting your relationship in jeopardy without you realizing it. Awareness is the first step to fixing it and these are some signs you may not be as good a partner as you think.
- You can’t help but point out little things your partner says or does “wrong”- It’s normal to get ticked off by something your partner does, but feeling like you have to tell them isn’t good for your relationship. Being critical about inconsequential things shows insecurity, not love.
- You keep your feelings to yourself when you’re upset with them- Constantly being critical isn’t healthy for your relationship, but bottling up your emotions means the problem is more likely to happen again. It’s better to be honest and speak up if your partner does or says something to upset you than to expect them to be a psychic and figure it out.
- You always tag along when your S.O. is with friends- Enjoying being with your partner and liking their friends is great, but being codependent? Not so much.
- You need to have the last word during disagreements- Some people feel like they have to “win” and think of having the last word as a victory over their boo. Healthy relationships don’t work like that and compromise is key.
- You’ve suggested breaking up during more than one argument- Threatening to end things if you don’t get your way is manipulative and damages the security of the relationship. Don’t be that person.
- When your partner is having a bad day, you tell them to get over it- Your intention may be to cheer them up and help them move on and be happy again, but not being willing to console them shows you’re not there for their needs. We don’t have the right to tell them what to feel and it just makes you sound like a jerk.